Genesis 2:18
Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."
Growing up, I have always had that one "friend" who tells me that I am too picky. Now, I don't know about you, but that immediately hurts my heart a little bit. Aren't I worth being picky? Shouldn't I be important enough to know what my standards and morals are, and to keep them? Ladies, I'm here to tell you that YOU ARE WORTH IT. Now, I'm not talking about ONLY going for a blue eyed, black haired, 6'7 guy, with a chiseled face, scruffy facial hair, who speaks with an Australian accent, works at a high end job, and is a great father with absolutely no flaws. We can dream, but let's not let ourselves become so overwhelmed that we miss out on the great guys who don't meet that criteria. (Unless you find the guy mentioned above, then yay for you.) The point is, it is okay and even healthy, I think, to know what you want in a man who could potentially be your husband and eventually the father of your children. You were created to complete a man and vice versa.
Proverbs 31:10-11
"An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain."
See ladies! There is a whole passage in Proverbs that is dedicated to us women to show us just how much we are worth and just how beautifully Jesus sees us. Think of the most beautiful piece of jewelry you've seen. You are actually far more worthy of adoration than that piece. Your value can not be based on something Earthly because it was paid for with a Heavenly price.
If Jesus sees us this way, should we not also view ourselves like this? These verses tell me that you deserve to be "picky" and to have set standards and morals that are unshakable. I've only had one boyfriend in my 21 years of life. Now, that may not seem crazy, but growing up in public school, I've had friends or known girls who have had more boyfriends than they can probably count on two hands. Now, i'm not here to pass judgement at all. In my experience though, I am the type of girl who dives all the way in and gives her heart fully so I cannot imagine dating that many guys and coming out feeling completely whole. I'm sure that if I talked to those friends, I could find some that would regret all the times they settled and gave away a little piece of themselves. I would hope they would hold themselves in higher esteem now.
Being picky has helped me immensely in keeping my heart guarded, and also in my everyday walk with God. When a potential boyfriend comes into the picture, I know that I can go straight to the Word to see if he aligns with what a Godly man should look like. Someone who is going to make me stumble spiritually, who won't help respect my purity, and who isn't going to be continually getting in the Word isn't someone that I want to settle for. Knowing what I want in a Godly man, shows me what I am worth to God. By that I mean that I am worth the wait for sex for marriage. I am worth finding someone who is more in love with the Lord than he is with me, because he wants to be. And, I am definitely worth the wait to find someone who is going to always be pointing me back to Christ and what He wants to do in and through me. These attributes and character traits are things that are non-negotiable, and if that makes me picky, then so be it. I would suggest to you, you precious ladies, to make a list of what you want in your future husband and father of your children. Make a column for the trait and then find a bible verse to align with that trait. That way, when someone tries to tell you that you are picky, you can bring it back to the Word and know that you are worth being picky.
Proverbs 31:25-26
"Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."
Be encouraged precious woman of God! Know your worth! Find your hope in the Word of God and do not grow weary in the waiting period. Know who you are to Christ and know what kind of man of God you want.
Be strong. Use wisdom. Be kind always. And don't be afraid to be picky. Being picky is NOT icky.
Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."
Growing up, I have always had that one "friend" who tells me that I am too picky. Now, I don't know about you, but that immediately hurts my heart a little bit. Aren't I worth being picky? Shouldn't I be important enough to know what my standards and morals are, and to keep them? Ladies, I'm here to tell you that YOU ARE WORTH IT. Now, I'm not talking about ONLY going for a blue eyed, black haired, 6'7 guy, with a chiseled face, scruffy facial hair, who speaks with an Australian accent, works at a high end job, and is a great father with absolutely no flaws. We can dream, but let's not let ourselves become so overwhelmed that we miss out on the great guys who don't meet that criteria. (Unless you find the guy mentioned above, then yay for you.) The point is, it is okay and even healthy, I think, to know what you want in a man who could potentially be your husband and eventually the father of your children. You were created to complete a man and vice versa.
Proverbs 31:10-11
"An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain."
See ladies! There is a whole passage in Proverbs that is dedicated to us women to show us just how much we are worth and just how beautifully Jesus sees us. Think of the most beautiful piece of jewelry you've seen. You are actually far more worthy of adoration than that piece. Your value can not be based on something Earthly because it was paid for with a Heavenly price.
If Jesus sees us this way, should we not also view ourselves like this? These verses tell me that you deserve to be "picky" and to have set standards and morals that are unshakable. I've only had one boyfriend in my 21 years of life. Now, that may not seem crazy, but growing up in public school, I've had friends or known girls who have had more boyfriends than they can probably count on two hands. Now, i'm not here to pass judgement at all. In my experience though, I am the type of girl who dives all the way in and gives her heart fully so I cannot imagine dating that many guys and coming out feeling completely whole. I'm sure that if I talked to those friends, I could find some that would regret all the times they settled and gave away a little piece of themselves. I would hope they would hold themselves in higher esteem now.
Being picky has helped me immensely in keeping my heart guarded, and also in my everyday walk with God. When a potential boyfriend comes into the picture, I know that I can go straight to the Word to see if he aligns with what a Godly man should look like. Someone who is going to make me stumble spiritually, who won't help respect my purity, and who isn't going to be continually getting in the Word isn't someone that I want to settle for. Knowing what I want in a Godly man, shows me what I am worth to God. By that I mean that I am worth the wait for sex for marriage. I am worth finding someone who is more in love with the Lord than he is with me, because he wants to be. And, I am definitely worth the wait to find someone who is going to always be pointing me back to Christ and what He wants to do in and through me. These attributes and character traits are things that are non-negotiable, and if that makes me picky, then so be it. I would suggest to you, you precious ladies, to make a list of what you want in your future husband and father of your children. Make a column for the trait and then find a bible verse to align with that trait. That way, when someone tries to tell you that you are picky, you can bring it back to the Word and know that you are worth being picky.
Proverbs 31:25-26
"Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue."
Be encouraged precious woman of God! Know your worth! Find your hope in the Word of God and do not grow weary in the waiting period. Know who you are to Christ and know what kind of man of God you want.
Be strong. Use wisdom. Be kind always. And don't be afraid to be picky. Being picky is NOT icky.